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Two Become One

May 21, 2010

Perhaps the world would be a far better place if wives submitted to their husbands, and this selfish and petty need to “wear the pants” in a relationship in fact directly resulted in the majority of the sexual and social corruption in the world. If women weren’t so selfish, America would probably still be the best place in the world to live.

But that isn’t the real problem.

The real problem is that love, marriage, and relationships in general are built upon such a fragile system in the first place.

Why should we need control in relationships in the first place? The answer to that question may reveal the answer to this present dilemma.

One way that people have dealt with this marriage problem is what’s called an “open relationship”. I am personally a fan of this system, as it somewhat bypasses the need for control in a relationship.

Even though you are in a relationship, you can still “see” other people, kiss other people, even sleep with other people. Your partner, approving such a relationship, encourages you doing so, as it fulfills your curiosity, stimulates your sexuality, and promotes a deeper trust and honesty that would have been possible in a traditional relationship.

But this gets rid of the sacredness of traditional values even more, reducing sex from being the pinnacle of intimacy to just fulfilling evolutionary instincts; sex would eventually be seen as nothing more than “assisted masturbation”.

It is this devaluing of the spiritual intimacy of sex that I cannot tolerate: “Two Become One”– does anyone even know what that means anymore? From my studies of the predominant philosophical consensus among Christians– not even God’s chosen ones seem to understand the importance of this creed anymore!

And the funny thing is, that if people were to understand what “two become one” really means, there would be no need for anyone to be in control in any relationship– rather, control itself (other than self-control) would become utterly irrelevant.

“Two become one”– this is probably the most beautiful, poetic, spiritual epiphany that anyone in a relationship can possible hope to live their life by. It is the essence of what it really means to love a person with everything that you are.

What does it mean to become one with someone?

It means that you love them more than you love yourself.

It means that you would be dead without them.

It means that you would die for them, putting their life before yours.

It means that you love and trust them above *everything* else– even yourself.

It means that they literally are your body, heart, soul, and mind.

It means that without them you are nothing.

It means that that person is you, and you are them.

In short, “two become one” means quite literally refers to two people who love each other so much that they are most accurately described as one person shared by two bodies.

To have such a beautiful nexus, of two minds, two hearts, two souls, and (during intercourse) two bodies becoming one– there is nothing like it in this world.

That is what true love really is.

But sadly, in this present reality, that kind of love is nothing short of a miracle.

6 Comments leave one →
  1. A Reader of th3g1vr since 20 Dec 06 permalink
    May 21, 2010 4:00 am

    There are some keen observations here. There are some statements which will anger most women. I recommend that you not share this with women.

  2. A Reader of th3g1vr since 20 Dec 06 permalink
    May 24, 2010 3:34 am

    To the best of my understanding, women became feminists because of their husbands and boyfriends condescending mistreatment. Much of history records that women were the property of men and women were not allowed the same freedoms as men.

    I feel that if both men and women loved and respected each other, many of the problems of today would not exist.

    You said that to become one, means that they literally are your body, heart, soul, and mind. I agree. At the very least, you are certainly physically at the very essence at being one body with a woman as you copulate. But if you engage in multiple sexual partners, you are no longer one, you are multiple.

    If as you say being “one,” means that you love them more than you love yourself, and then if she did not want you to have sex with anyone but herself, and you did otherwise, then you are NOT “one,” because you did not love her enough to please her by being true to her wishes.

    The term, “spoiled bitches,” is unbecoming of you. I expected and expect better of you. (No caring man or woman, would accept such a term for their mother, daughter, or sister.)

    Do you think that the women on Ok Cupid would approve of your statement about women?

    I have other comments, but I believe them best suited for a personal conversation. That is, if you are interested in my further comments.

    • May 24, 2010 4:22 am

      Omg ps. Your comments about “not being one if you don’t respect her wishes” demonstrate that you have no freaking clue what thus post is saying.

      I suggest you re-read this post until you can comprehend what it means to not have an Ego. The Ego is after all the primary force separating the union between people in the first place.

      In other words– selflessness. WTF are you even talking about?

      I guess you just can’t understand what it means to live without the exchange of power. When a person realizes that there is no meaning in the desire to possess, they will then realize that there is no such thing as “cheating”, except for those that are still possessed by that desire

      I am hippie in that sense– I don’t believe in power or possession– I just am.

      The love that I am referring to is the so-called “Free Love”.

      I cannot cheat on anyone, because I am the world, and the world is me. My love is manifested inherently– there’s no need to validate it or restrict it to a particular form or person. For my love does not exist to please myself or anyone else– my love exists that through it I might manifest God, and experience him through that manifestation.

    • May 24, 2010 4:10 am

      A few self notes so I don’t forget:

      1. Physical intercourse and its impact on relationships is not relevent to this post.

      2. Feminism is not due to mistreatment or being condescending. If you actually read the post, you would know that women originally turned a blind eye to this– why do you think marriage was a stable institution for so long. The ultimate source you could say is “public awareness– but even this is derived from feminism (i.e. gossip)

      it deals with the exchange of power– lol do you know anything about psychology– if something is considered “normal” to those affected, they won’t resist. For example, until fairly recently, both practically and legally, it wasn’t technically considered abuse to beat a woman unless the rod was thicker than your thumb. “mistreatment” and “condescending are opinions are completely relative, making that a mute point.

      3. “bitch” is a word that possesses a certain intensity appropriate for the context and exactly the right definition. If you can find a word that possess both the same intensity and definition, let me know.

      Is it offensive? Absolutely! It’s supposed to be, otherwise it wouldn’t get the point across correctly. Women should be ashamed of themselves for this awful world that they’ve created.

      5. Did I say that I cared about the opinions of people on OkCupid?

      6. this blog is a personal journal, which unlike th3g1vr, is actually intended first and foremost for my personal indulgence. Take everything with a grain of salt.

      If you disagree, see if I care.

      To begin with, I never asked for acceptance. I never wanted acceptance. Acceptance is boring. It’s much more fun to put controversial shit out there and see how people react


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